Chronic Pain & Kink
The following information is from the hand-out I distribute while teaching my "Chronic Pain & Kink" class. I hope that the information within it can help others with chronic pain conditions live a more fulfilling life. If you would like to have me present the class to your local BDSM/Kink group, please send an email to Ignixia@yahoo.com Click here for a printer friendly version of the hand-out Read more...
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Chronic pain is defined as pain that lasts 6 months or longer. Given the prolonged duration of chronic pain, it isn't hard to see why one of the most common symptoms to follow is depression.
As our bodies succumb to more and more pain we find ourselves doing less and less physical activity, changing our routines, and whatever else we can to avoid more pain. People who used to live a life of constant motion find themselves leading lives of a much more sedentary nature. Weight gain follows. Depression finds its way in and makes itself a permanent, unwanted house-guest. Thankfully, this isn't the case for everyone with chronic pain, however it is extremely common. So, how do we combat this issue? As a leatherworker and a bootblack, one of the most common questions I'm asked is "how do you sterilize leather?"
On one hand I'm happy to know that people are mindful enough to know that it is important to keep toys clean, but on the other hand I can't help but wonder WHY do you really need to sterilize your toys? If you ask BDSM practitioners around the world what makes them different from crazed killers they'll all respond with the same answer: "consent." The next answer that will most likely follow is "safety." What do these things mean though and how do they apply to BDSM?
Well, consent is a fairly simple matter in principle: if someone says "yes" they want to do something, they have consented. If they say anything other than that (ie: no, maybe, I don't know, etc.) then they haven't consented to the activity, which then becomes abuse rather than kinky bedroom fun. Yes means yes, and only yes means yes. Hi. My name is Kara and I'm not an addict.
I never went through "the phase" where drug-use was appealing (including excessive alcohol consumption) and to be completely honest, there was a time when I resented those who did become addicted to one substance or another. I didn't get it. I didn't understand the appeal to use in the first place and more than that I didn't understand why people couldn't just stop. It seemed pretty clear to me, if you don't want to do something, don't. To improve the quality of our toys and the service we provide our toy buying family, we are always looking to other vendors to see what we can improve. Whether it is requests for new products, different colors, or price changes, we try to do what we can to make you, our family, happy.
WARNING: Many play types are inherently dangerous if you are not experienced with them. Please do not attempt any of these without proper research and instruction!
Here is a list of some of the more common play types you might see or hear about in the BDSM lifestyle: Now that we’ve covered the basics of BDSM, what are some common terms one might hear in the lifestyle?
A Scene, or Play, is when two or more people are involved in an activity related to BDSM during a specific time period (usually anywhere from a few minutes to a couple hours, but rarely longer than that). An example of a “scene” might be someone giving their partner spankings or tying them up. Congratulations. You’ve found the exciting world of BDSM. Perhaps you read about it in a book, saw it in a video, or heard about it from some friends. Something about it intrigued you, whether it was just a few days ago or years ago, and now you’re looking for more. Before we get into the “how-to” of specific activities you may have heard of or witnessed, let’s start with the basics. What is BDSM?
Once upon a time, polyamory terrified me.
The idea that someone could be in love with multiple people was just wrong; plain and simple. Movies, television, radio, everything told us that you had to find that one person to live with for the rest of your life to be happy. 1 Man + 1 Woman + 2.5 Kids + 1 House (with a picket fence) +/- 1 Domesticated Animal = Happiness I believed it. |
AuthorIgnixia is an international kink and alternative sexuality educator. The following blog entries range from educational information and resources from her classes to daily musings had on things occurring in the world. Archives
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